We’ve all heard the phrase “self-love is the best love”, but what does loving yourself really look like?
Is it a real investment of time, money and energy? Investing in yourself can lead to the healthy, empowered relationship that you’ve always dreamed about. So no matter if you’re happily single or settling into the more serious side of dating, your real LOVE STORY is the one you share with yourself.
T R Y B E I N G L O V E O F Y O U R L I F E
Being the love of your life is the most important step in finding the love of your life. Most of the times we seek happiness comparing our life with others and forget loving ourself enough to embrace others truly.
D A T E F R O M A P L A C E O F S E L F L O V E
There are basically two types of men and women: hunters and farmers. Farmers feel calm and chill and safe, whereas hunters are people who are moving around, who we would say have a lot of game, so to speak. In this dating world, you have to decide who you are and what you need. This comes from having a very solid relationship with yourself, so that you can make good decisions for you.
When you date from a place of self-love, you’re not on there trying to get anyone to like you, it’s not about that. You’re eliminating people. Because if you are trying to impress anyone than you’re going to end up in the wrong relationship and it’s gonna be because you departed from your own path.
F A C E Y O U R F E A R S
You have to know yourself and know the things you’ve struggled with. One way you do that is you go through all your relationships and identify the core feeling that was going on when you met them. Then look at the outcome of that relationship. If that relationship turned awesome, great, you can trust that. But if it turned out dark, then there’s work to do.”
“The warning signs aren’t outside, they’re [inside yourself]... It’s all about learning to recognise what’s going on within yourself"
Suggestion: Sit down with the pen and a diary and make your pros/cons list of Self Discovery
S T O P E X P E C T I N G Y O U R P A S T T O R E P E A T A G A I N
There are two kinds of people in the world: People who live their lives looking back, and people who live their lives looking forward. Decide who you want to be?
Not everyone is meant to be in your life forever. Some people are meant to teach us some lessons, show us a good time and learn about what we need from those close to us. Mourning the loss of someone who is still alive and well is hard but don’t be afraid to let go. When you are doing what’s right for you, the people who are meant to be in your life, will be and the ones who aren’t will find their way out. Embrace your small circle while expanding your network and enjoy being single while figuring out what you need in a partner.
Go with the flow and embrace yourself.